I'm not from Texas, I reside in Texas, but I'm from a poor, country, hick town in North Carolina. My views are likely different from someone that grew up in the inner city, the "ghetto/hood." Simply because I can only attest to MY observations. To me,MY observations validate MY opinions. Just like the next person's observations validate theirs.
We could sit here until Jesus comes, and surely there is nothing anyone can say to me to change MY opinion, just like there's nothing I can say that will change theirs. Just because I don't agree doesn't mean that they're lying or in denial, it just means I don't agree. That's why the insults, whether implied or direct, in these type of discussions baffle me.
How does one justify "beating someone down" because of their views on a subject? What point can you get across? How can their be open dialogue when it's a "If you don't see it, you're an idiot/a coon/in denial/ "new black". You haven't lived their life, they haven't lived yours.
MY views, (from what I surmise), make me "new Black". And if expecting people of ANY race, but since we're talking about Black people, especially Black people, to desire self sufficiency and a certain level of pride to at least ATTEMPT to not fulfill every negative stereotype about us makes me a "coon/",then dammit, I'm a "coon" for life.
I know racism exists. I spend waaaaay to much time "debating" with racists to the point I've been threatened, had obscene photoshopped images of me sent to my Facebook friends/relatives,(my own minor daughter), banned from certain forums/Facebook pages,etc.
It doesn't make me "less 'REAL' Black" than the next Black person that feels differently about certain things. But, if that applies to you and you desperately need to feel that way, to believe I'm a "coon" or Uncle Tom, that cheeses and grins in White peoples' faces and happily joins in if they say disparaging things about Black people, you obviously don't know a muthaphuckin thing about me,but by all means, knock yourself the total fcuk out. (btw, that's not "angry talk", I'm smiling as I type this.)
As a person that grew up DIRT poor, in a community of DIRT poor Black people, that many went thru all types of discrimination and racism, (AGAIN, in the South in case you forgot), MY observations/experiences were as follows:
If you can't afford to feed your family, you stop having kids until you can.
No one owes you a damn thing. It's YOUR job to provide.
If you don't work, you don't eat.
If tragedy befalls you in some way, by all means, reach out for help.
No one is without pitfalls and tragedies. But, it's always as a last resort and even then, you're still fighting to get back to norm, not a lifestyle.
It's STILL a "big deal" to have kids out of wedlock, especially numerous kids, by multiple partners. So what if your mother had 5 out of wedlock kids and they're all wealthy and successful? That's not the way that story usually ends, stop pretending like it is. If you CHOOSE to have multiple kids by "men" that won't/don't support them, then don't complain about it. What did you think was going to happen?
If you do dumb/illegal ish,you increase your chances of getting hurt/killed/maimed, etc. Shouldn't have put yourself in that situation. YES! There are people that are unfairly targeted by law enforcement and YES! I am equally outraged as the next person when that happens, but if your dumb azz breaks into someone's house, because it's "easier" for you to steal than work like the rest of us, whatever happens, happens. I will NOT be marching, holding up a sign in front of the homeowner's house, talking bout "You didn't have to shoot him. You could've shot him in the leg or something.". In fact, I'm happy that there's on less criminal on the streets.
I have NO doubt that racism still exists and it directly affects those of us that aspire for financial security and success.
And I also have NO doubt that some of us are perfectly content in self destructive/self limiting behaviors, and there are many of us with enabling mentalities that coddle them. Therefore they don't have a reason to put any effort into progression, because it's always going to be someone telling them that it's perfectly acceptable to not even TRY . "Don't worry about it, it's ok, it's a racist world. Get that welfare girl! No need to go to school, have them babies and raise them in gang infested neighborhoods. After all, corporations get welfare. White people do it too. It's ok. Only God can judge you."
Like having a group of friends that has one obese friend that's obviously suffering from health issues due to her obesity. she complains that she's sick of being obese, but doesn't do one thing to stop the cycle. One friend tells her, "I want to see you live. I know you're content with your weight, and it's your decision to make, but you're killing yourself. Your parents and other relatives were obese and dies young and you were affected by that. Don't you want to break the cycle? " Or says "Let's go to the salad bar for lunch instead of McDonald's."
The other friend:" What? She told you that you should lose weight? Girl, she's 'hating' on you. What business is it of hers? She just wants to judge you. She thinks she's better than you. She's jealous because men love "thick" women. Girl put that salad down and eat a burger!"
That's how I see it. I truly believe that we ALL want to see out people rise up to what we're capable of. Surely more can be successful. But how can you assist the ones that don't even realize that they need assistance?
It seems that we have the "coons/new blacks" and the "It's ok"/enablers.
If you're not cosigning the "Woe Is Me" petition, you're deemed a "coon".
I can explain to you, but I can't understand it for you. And having grown up poor, it's kind of hard to hear all of the "reasons"/excuses as to why it's perfectly acceptable to not try to achieve positive things. Our forefathers fought and DIED for a more even playing field. It's still not even and it NEVER will be. So does that mean some of us should just not be bothered that many of us don't even attempt to take advantage of the progress that was made?
Sorry. It won't happen. Maybe my family/social circle is an anomaly. I think that they're "regular" people. "Regular" people that grew up poor, some in the country, some in the "hood", that surely experienced racism, but didn't use it as a crutch, and are now "the Middle Class."
Yup, long as fcuk, with the usual typographical errors and horrible syntax. The usual suspects won't even bother to TRY to understand any points I attempted to make anyway. Even if they did, they wouldn't admit to it. Too busy attacking and insulting because I have an OPINION, based upon MY observations and MY experiences that dares differs from theirs.