I am not trying to sound harsh. I get so tired of these grown women on BHM with all these supposed 'sensibilities' to the truth
of what I am saying just because I am not saying it the way
they want me to say it. Hee hee!
I am also tired of the GREAT VOLUME of grown as**** women on these threads with these rediculous stories about some man that dogged them out. I am thinking exactly what a lot of people are thinking which is 'Why in the HELL are you sitting there like a victim and allowing these men to dog you out?'
Leave. There is something going on on the INSIDE if you cannot recognize such predator type behaviour in the people in your life.
This is the QUESTION at issue here - why people stay in the company people that harm them verbally or in any way?
When you are with a ANYONE that talks to you in a shabby fashion, treats you badly, lies to you, cheats etc .. the answer to this is to walk away. The answer is not to hang around trying to get him to 'act right'. He is a rat
Me? I have a 3 LIE cutoff. If I catch him in 3 lies/or in some wrong doing it's over early on .. before I get involved. So you can't say you stay because you love him ... when you recognized he was a rat after the third date. It takes longer than 3 dates .. to fall in love.
You'd be surprised at how false people can be if you watch their body language, words and use your common sense. Gosh how many men have I caught LYING about what they do for a living?
I only deal with the truth.
Now if I was lonely, desparate or whatever.. I would EXCUSE bad behaviour and go out with these losers anyway because he is good looking, flattering and fun. My mother always said - people SHOW you who they are early on, you just have to be able to see it.
Yes, I am trying to get the OP's attention. If it does not work - okay, fine I tried. But I am not gonna tiptoe around that big fking PINK ELEPHANT in middle of the room. Which is ... WHY the heck are you with a rat to begin with?
I am very sorry she sees suicide as a real option .... but to be honest, nothing I say here is gonna stop her from taking her own life if she has already decided.
I said it in the very beginnng - she needs to see someone. Seriously. Clearly there is a lot going on with her.
Edited by Printer_Ink - Sep 26 2013 at 6:25am