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Overall I liked it, but it does seem more true for work situations.

If all the people in your life only want you because of what they can get from you, you need new friends.

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Originally posted by Babydoll9163 Babydoll9163 wrote:

Overall I liked it, but it does seem more true for work situations.

If all the people in your life only want you because of what they can get from you, you need new friends.



I don't think it's that literal when it comes to more interpersonal relationships. Even in our friendships, we give and take.

We give each other respect, we give each other happiness, we give each other mutual interest, we give each other laughter, we give each other memories, etc.

Even in friendships, we give and take without even realizing it. Even when we do realize it in the name of something like a favor, that's done mainly out of good will and likely to be reciprocated somehow in the future. If it's unequal where a friendship feels rather one-sided, then there is more taking than reciprocating.
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wish I could like Midna's post more than once
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Originally posted by Midna Midna wrote:


We give each other respect, we give each other happiness, we give each other mutual interest, we give each other laughter, we give each other memories, etc.

Even in friendships, we give and take without even realizing it. Even when we do realize it in the name of something like a favor, that's done mainly out of good will and likely to be reciprocated somehow in the future.


How do you do this though? Especially happiness, interest, etc. That's tied into just being you. You don't work to be yourself.

And there are times we take a lot more than we can give. Some of our debts can never be paid back (I know some of my friends have done much more than I could ever repay). They don't do that because of what they can get or what you've given necessarily. They do that because because they love you.  





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this sh*t will not make me a better person...
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Midna Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Dec 17 2012 at 5:35pm
Originally posted by Babydoll9163 Babydoll9163 wrote:

Originally posted by Midna Midna wrote:


We give each other respect, we give each other happiness, we give each other mutual interest, we give each other laughter, we give each other memories, etc.

Even in friendships, we give and take without even realizing it. Even when we do realize it in the name of something like a favor, that's done mainly out of good will and likely to be reciprocated somehow in the future.


How do you do this though? Especially happiness, interest, etc. That's tied into just being you. You don't work to be yourself.

And there are times we take a lot more than we can give. Some of our debts can never be paid back (I know some of my friends have done much more than I could ever repay). They don't do that because of what they can get or what you've given necessarily. They do that because because they love you.
 




"You" won't always give something positive to someone. "You" are not compatible with everyone. "You" can give happiness to one person and disgust to another. You are not working to be "you," but "you" have an effect in a friendship that is just outright natural. You ever had a friend whom you just enjoyed being around so much, you outright desired to be around them just to have a good time? They're not working to be that magnetic, but they naturally give you that heightened sense of happiness.

Your other point is basically a repeat of my ending point: The times we realize we are giving and taking is in the name of a favor done out of love and good will and is likely to be reciprocated somehow in the future. Now maybe such reciprocation may not be equal in value, but in the name of favors, it is reciprocation nevertheless.
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Our relationships are naturally reciprocal, that doesn't mean people are only interested because of what they can get.

Like I said, the article makes a lot of sense in work/professional sense. Your boss doesn't gaf if you're good on the inside, but your wife should.

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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (2) Thanks(2)   Quote Midna Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Dec 17 2012 at 5:58pm
Originally posted by Babydoll9163 Babydoll9163 wrote:

Our relationships are naturally reciprocal, that doesn't mean people are only interested because of what they can get.

Like I said, the article makes a lot of sense in work/professional sense. Your boss doesn't gaf if you're good on the inside, but your wife should.



In a sense they are, but they're not actively thinking "Ooh, I'm gonna befriend this person and get some laughs and happiness!" It just happens naturally. This doesn't mean there aren't people who will try to befriend to fulfill a specific intent- they exist of course.

I suppose because this article stripped that basic function to its bare, it looks a lot more "gimme gimme gimme, take take take!" which isn't always portrayed as positive.
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The best part about the write up is the part when he saids 

"the process is the result"


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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (6) Thanks(6)   Quote Gannon Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Dec 17 2012 at 6:22pm
The article was 100 percent on point. Even the responses in this thread are proof of it's accuracy. Thank you Midna for posting it, it confirmed some things that I was already familiar with. 
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