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I just want to thank everybody who has been praying for me and being supportive. The restraining order will be turned in tomorrow to the courthouse. I have set a court date for custody since months ago we agreed on nothing at mediation. The court date for custody will help to protect my daughter from him ever trying to take her without my consent. I have gone NO CONTACT on him for 2 weeks now. He continues to call and leave voicemails that I don't listen to. His number is blocked, but the voicemails show up on the blocked voicemail list. He calls from unknown numbers as well. CPS has been on my side as far as everything and they even gave me a copy of a past police report I made against him when I was pregnant for violence. they said I did not have to speak to him or ask him to help financially with baby because he's not going to, unless the law intervenes. I have already filed for child support (back in June) and I'm waiting. I have started counseling for domestic violence as well, it's at a church with a counselor.

im very lonely and depressed, but I'm on my way to a better life and im doing the right things. My daughter is very happy, CPS has pointed this out because every time they see her, she's so friendly, laughing, and alert. They say that must mean I'm doing a good job as a parent to her. They seem more worried about me finding my own happiness. They want me to socialize more and do the counseling. I'm ok with sacrificing my happiness for my child though. CPS doesn't want me to get sucked back into the a use cycle with this guy.

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The restraining order was granted! My baby Natalie and I are protected until the hearing. her dad left me no other choice, I feel bad, but he doesn't understand boundaries and that he needs help for his abuse issues and other issues. i listened to his voicemails and felt sympathetic, but it's all an act and he will always revert back to a selfish, irresponsible, immoral abuser until he gets help.
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it feels good to be talking to other men and feel attractive and worth something again. I'm talking to this cute guy who is my age. lol, but I'm so paranoid and looking for red flags. He asked what I was doing and I told him I was relaxing and I asked him and he said he was taking a bike ride. in my mind, I interpreted that as him not having a car. I'm not saying that is a red flag, but my ex had DUIs and a suspended license. I just don't want to deal with a dude who has to be chauffeured around. its manly for a man to drive to me. I would like to go out to see a movie with him. It would be my first date since the break up of my ex and me in mid march.
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I was thinking and there's nothing to miss.  I was clinging to memories that weren't that great and replaying the past..but it's been so long..there's nothing there.  I wish I had loved myself more, listened to the part of me that had sense, and allowed myself to feel worthy even with all my imperfections. And I wish I hadn't been so scared to believe I could dream of a happy and successful future.
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he dumped his girlfriend for me. i feel bad.

he saw no future with her so technically he did the right thing..albeit hurtful to her.

i'm so empathetic to women's feelings. i feel guilty even though i didn't do anything wrong.
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Originally posted by indiecat indiecat wrote:

it feels good to be talking to other men and feel attractive and worth something again. I'm talking to this cute guy who is my age. lol, but I'm so paranoid and looking for red flags. He asked what I was doing and I told him I was relaxing and I asked him and he said he was taking a bike ride. in my mind, I interpreted that as him not having a car. I'm not saying that is a red flag, but my ex had DUIs and a suspended license. I just don't want to deal with a dude who has to be chauffeured around. its manly for a man to drive to me. I would like to go out to see a movie with him. It would be my first date since the break up of my ex and me in mid march.

I remember you from when I used to post a lot on here years ago... you were a much different person.  I hope you become your true self again.  Maybe you should take some time for just you and your daughter, without having any men in your life.  Your loneliness may cause you to make the same mistakes again...getting to know yourself and allowing yourself to heal never hurt anyone.
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Originally posted by callmeDEva callmeDEva wrote:

he dumped his girlfriend for me. i feel bad.

he saw no future with her so technically he did the right thing..albeit hurtful to her.

i'm so empathetic to women's feelings. i feel guilty even though i didn't do anything wrong.

applaud that man...some guys will string her along and cheat..at least he kept it real
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^^ew seahawks.


but sigh. i love me some him. im kinda excited to see where this road takes us.
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Why does he keep my pictures up on fb? we are not together anymore, I have a restraining order, what more do I need? I almost feel he is keeping them up just because a knows it bothers me. Well, he looks stupid flirting with others and having pictures of he and I hugged up and me and our baby on the day she was born.

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Originally posted by slykitten slykitten wrote:

Originally posted by indiecat indiecat wrote:

it feels good to be talking to other men and feel attractive and worth something again. I'm talking to this cute guy who is my age. lol, but I'm so paranoid and looking for red flags. He asked what I was doing and I told him I was relaxing and I asked him and he said he was taking a bike ride. in my mind, I interpreted that as him not having a car. I'm not saying that is a red flag, but my ex had DUIs and a suspended license. I just don't want to deal with a dude who has to be chauffeured around. its manly for a man to drive to me. I would like to go out to see a movie with him. It would be my first date since the break up of my ex and me in mid march.


I remember you from when I used to post a lot on here years ago... you were a much different person.  I hope you become your true self again.  Maybe you should take some time for just you and your daughter, without having any men in your life.  Your loneliness may cause you to make the same mistakes again...getting to know yourself and allowing yourself to heal never hurt anyone.


You are right and I think I'm attracting the wrong men in the state I am in anyways. it's not good to be vulnerable and healing from bad things and be out there trying to date.
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