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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (2) Thanks(2)   Quote sexyandfamous Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 11 2014 at 11:50pm
^^^^^ no he doesn't; Indie has been posting about him for a long time. He made her miserable during her pregnancy, moved in with her and her dad and then disrespected her dad, doesn't care about his child and won't pay child support. I don't think he even has a job.
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My baby's dad is abusive physically and verbally. Our child witnessed the abuse and he even put hands on me while I held her. She could have suffocated because he wanted to fight me instead of paying attention to the baby. He has not helped out enough and he gets $2000 a month of disability and unemployment. He has not looked for a job and is living at his parents place at 34. He gambles , buys himself expensive gadgets, hangs out. so, he should be paying child support instead of watching me struggle. I was lucky enough to get back enough tax return money and also pregnancy disability. My dad has helped me tremendously as well.

The reason he is not around her is mainly the abuse. I have asked for supervised visitation until he has gone to counseling and proves it. He has refused and he did not try to find someone to supervise visits with her.

And he has lied to people saying I'm a bad mom when I do all of the work. He said I'm keeping her away from him. Just so you guys know, he's visiting this week. I have allowed him to see her out of the goodness of my heart. I am supervising, even though he puts me on edge. He only saw her for 3 hours and 15minutes. I am making the effort and will let him see her everyday he is here. He has not seen her since mid march and he was her for only 3 hours and 15 minutes because he said he can't stand seeing her cry so much. He's a stranger to her and she scream/cries her head off and wanted her mommy. he can't handle her and didn't even change a diaper when I brought her around.

So, don't even to there about me stopping him from seeing her. I've been alienated by his family who once called me family. There are lies swirling around about me and my daughter has also been alienated. that hurts so damn much. She deserves a lot better.
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Sexyandfamous, thanks
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The baby's dad tried to take the baby, he also got violent when I refused to drive him somewhere in my car. I knew it was a bad idea to be the nice person and allow him to spend time with her.

I will be reporting him to child services and filing a restraining order. he has been emotionally manipulating me.

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It's never a bad thing to try to do whats best for the baby. I've been praying for you. Now, you know what you have to do and you don't have to second guess it anymore. Handle ya biz Hug

Those of us lurking are still praying, sweetie. 
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Originally posted by whittywhit0678 whittywhit0678 wrote:


I wish I wasn't so young and naive and had actually LISTENED to the ppl on BHM that told me NOT to move in with my boyfriend and to drop his ass. 2.5 years later my ass is stuck!!! Ouch


What happened? My boyfriend wants me to move in with him, he's been asking for a while.
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I've been fucking an old ex, bless his dick

But that white boy is so weird.
I don't even acknowledge his existence but I went to my friend's party and he'd suddenly appear wherever I was and sneak comments to me like we were on good terms. I also caught him staring at me multiple times and this dude was even talking about past lays and vaguely mentioned me which was awkward as hell.

I'm now hearing he's liking photos of me on facebook that aren't on my account. I had a picture of me taken from behind and I won't lie, I was looking nice and curvy. This fool liked and commented on it as a friend told me and sent me a screenshot since I can't see it due to blocking him. Fool was saying I'm so stunning. Huh? Just a few weeks ago when I was ending the friendship, he didn't take it well and posted on his tumblr like losing me was no loss.

But now he's giving me longing stares, trying to sneak chat with me, and liking whatever I'm in? I bet he's still stalking my tumblr too.

He misses me. But if there's one thing I love doing to people who have wronged me and those I love, it's making them miserable by living happily without them. He can stay missing me.
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@indie, not everyone who has been in our lives before deserves to remain in our lives. He is not worth to be around, especially when he tried to take the baby. I bet he was going to claim you hurt her and that's why he took her. You said he has been saying lies about you; I think you should pay attention who those people are. If they walk up to you to tell you that he has been saying that you are a bad mom and they seem to believe it, cut them off, because they are just as toxic as him.
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this is the very last time his ass is going to disrespect me. He had best think twice before trying to contact me again because i will drag his whole life for filth and leave it out to dry.
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I just want to thank everybody who has been praying for me and being supportive. The restraining order will be turned in tomorrow to the courthouse. I have set a court date for custody since months ago we agreed on nothing at mediation. The court date for custody will help to protect my daughter from him ever trying to take her without my consent. I have gone NO CONTACT on him for 2 weeks now. He continues to call and leave voicemails that I don't listen to. His number is blocked, but the voicemails show up on the blocked voicemail list. He calls from unknown numbers as well. CPS has been on my side as far as everything and they even gave me a copy of a past police report I made against him when I was pregnant for violence. they said I did not have to speak to him or ask him to help financially with baby because he's not going to, unless the law intervenes. I have already filed for child support (back in June) and I'm waiting. I have started counseling for domestic violence as well, it's at a church with a counselor.

im very lonely and depressed, but I'm on my way to a better life and im doing the right things. My daughter is very happy, CPS has pointed this out because every time they see her, she's so friendly, laughing, and alert. They say that must mean I'm doing a good job as a parent to her. They seem more worried about me finding my own happiness. They want me to socialize more and do the counseling. I'm ok with sacrificing my happiness for my child though. CPS doesn't want me to get sucked back into the a use cycle with this guy.

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