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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 07 2013 at 6:16pm
Originally posted by femmefatale85 femmefatale85 wrote:

 

  1. "You'll change your mind when you meet the right man."
  2. "It's a mom thing."
  3. "But you would be such a great mom!"
  4. "You think you don't want children, but once you have them you'll change your mind."
  5. "You'd better hurry up and give your husband a child before he finds someone who will."
  6. "You don't have children, so you won't understand."
  7. "Aren't you worried there'll be no one to look after you when you're old?"
 
these are said to me the most and i hate it.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 07 2013 at 6:18pm
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Edited by Brownsugar1 - Nov 07 2013 at 6:18pm
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 07 2013 at 6:20pm
White folks .
Just find a donor and have kids. I'll babysit
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 07 2013 at 6:22pm
Originally posted by KottonKandy KottonKandy wrote:

I always hear...go 'head and give that man a baby. I see cute little girls and handsome little boys all the time and for a minute, I want one. Then I realize they grow up... A cute little girl may not be that cute anymore in her teens lol... 


Exactly. If I have a child...then I'm selfish for moving them around to give them all the things they need AND want.

I'm selfish because my job requires me to work 70/wk then I'm a mom but a "bad mom"

I wonder if the ppl always throwing the baby stuff in my face are really just in that misery loves company mode sometimes. My true true friends with kids tell me that they love their kids ( and husband) but it was easier before kids came along..

My family is putting on the pressure since I'm hitting that big 3-0 but I also knw that I do not want to remarry so is that selfish to willingly have a 'bastard child' as BHM says?

We need a damn focus group.

Edited by oh_so_moody - Nov 07 2013 at 6:23pm
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 07 2013 at 6:22pm
Originally posted by **Sk!TtLeS B** **Sk!TtLeS B** wrote:

<span style=": rgb251, 251, 253; line-height: 1.4;">"You're a </span>crazy cat lady<span style=": rgb251, 251, 253; line-height: 1.4;"> </span><span style=": rgb251, 251, 253; line-height: 1.4;">in training."</span>
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You sound like them crazy beast ppl

Is it really that offensive when ppl make these comments?
They generally don't mean any harm.

I mean who cares.

But I'm one of those ppl who think bearing life is a truly extraordinary thing.
I'm in awe of women who do.

I may not have kids or want to but I think the women who do have done a glorious thing .
They have done a truly awesome thing and should feel a sort of pride in it.
They have life inside of them.

I'm amazed

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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 07 2013 at 6:25pm
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 07 2013 at 6:29pm
No one is taking away the amazing act of birthing a person.

I tip my hat.

But your rights end where mine begin.
U have the right to birth humans and I have the right not to be questioned or pressured because of someone else's personal decisions.

Put the shoe on the other foot...

If u tell me " you'll regret it later in life" for not having kids it's harmless but I if I say the exact same thing after you have you've one it's rude and bitter?

Nah, it'a not harmless. It's polite insults and the sh*t ain't cool up or down.

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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 07 2013 at 6:35pm


I agree 1000000% with skittles

I hear women that are struggling to take care of their own kids say these things to women without kids


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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 07 2013 at 6:36pm
Originally posted by femmefatale85 femmefatale85 wrote:

 "You'll change your mind when you meet the right man." 


I heard this one a lot.

Me: the right man for me won't want any kids either.Big smile
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 07 2013 at 6:37pm
And no darts toward you, Jones but you have no idea how degrading it is as black woman to walk into your law school and be expected to have kids. And not only that but being told "I waited til my kids were older to enter law school, I want to be an example to them" or "it's that much more important to me to do well because of my kids"

Like I as a 26 year old black woman can't enter into thi s university without having a baby at home I'm doing it for. I can't just be doing it for me or for my family. I gotta do it for my kid????

This is something I haven't really spoke on in the past because ppl make me feel guilty for wanting to be great for me and wanting to travel and love and hate and regret and rejoice and succeed and not have to answer or share everything with anyone

As if its not okay? I want ppl to respect my choices the same way I respect and CELEBRATE theirs.

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